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The Sequel Wedding: What it is and how to do it

August 2020

The ongoing Covid-19 pandemic continues to exercise us all – in and out of the wedding industry. We’ve already tackled aspects of the situation a couple of times on our blog in our article about changing wedding plans and a feature about creating a Covid-friendly intimate wedding set-up.  But the buzzword now, to work around the restrictions we have, is the sequel wedding. So, in this post we’ll have a look at the sequel wedding – what it is and how to do it.

Covid-Compliant Weddings

So, we have to embrace the reality of weddings with fewer than thirty guests in a Covid-compliant venue. The reality is that for the moment, no wedding can have as many as thirty guests.

Let’s examine why:

Say the capacity of the Covid compliant ceremony room is going to be around 25 people. Remove the registrars from the equation and you’re down to 23. Then there’s the photographer – now you’re at 22 people. And that number has to include the entire wedding party – bride, groom, witnesses, bridesmaids and guests. 

But there is a way to get around this problem – and that’s the sequel wedding.

What is a sequel wedding?

The sequel wedding simply refers to a couple hosting several sequential ceremonies/celebrations.

This isn’t a new concept however. Many other cultures and religions have had such a system since … well since for ever. But now, with our pandemic restrictions, British couples are embracing the idea. Indeed, we’re doing this very thing in our own family. My son had his marriage ceremony late August and his wedding celebrations will be at the start of September in 2021.

An intimate wedding- close family attended the marriage ceremony and wedding breakfast. The sequel to be held in 2021
Image courtesy of photographybysallyanne

And that’s an important distinction to make in any event, as we wrote in this blog, Your Marriage or Your Wedding, earlier this year.

The sequel wedding concept shows every sign of being the new norm for 2020 and into 2021 too. Following so many months of being unable to see friends and relatives in person, few are now willing to limit the joy of a wedding celebration to one event.

Thus, we’re going to see more and more of what Hitched.Co.UK describe as ‘minimonies, micro weddings and elopements joining big reception celebrations for a sequel wedding.’

It’s typical then for the marriage ceremony to have only the closest of family and friends present, with a larger guest list invited to a second ceremony. And following up those two is a large reception.

Irrespective of Covid, some couples have elected to follow a pattern something like that anyway. A small church or registry office marriage followed a small gathering to mark the occasion. Then a larger party, on a different day, at a chosen venue.

And now, in the midst of Coronavirus, there’s a rising trend of couples opting to host, as described above, a minimony or micro-wedding on their original wedding date – or later this year on a re-arranged date. And then they’re planning for a bigger, sparkling, sequel wedding celebration in 2021.

The new wedding jargon

Now for definitions of these new wedding words – so you’re clear on what we’re talking about.

Minimony

This is a cut-down version of your postponed wedding. It’s your legal ceremony or commitment ceremony held by a celebrant your vicar, priest or registrar. You’ll have your minimony in the presence of a few loved ones – either in person or virtually. 

Everything will be as you planned it for your original date. You’ll make your vows, have your first dance, have a photographer for a few hours and even a put a knife in to a cut-down version of your wedding cake.

With a minimony your guest list has enforced and severe limitations on it. So the guests you had to cull get an invitation to a follow-up wedding when large groups can meet once more.  At the follow-up event you’ll have another ceremony, where you’ll walk down the aisle and exchange your vows, this ceremony can be conducted by a celebrant, followed by a reception.

The sequel wedding - couple at table signing register
Photograph courtesy of Twirly Girl Photography

Micro-wedding

I’ll forgive you for wondering what the difference is between this and a minimony.  Yet bear with me – there is one. 

Whereas a minimony is a Covid-compromise, a micro-wedding is a wedding with fewer than 20 guests by deliberate design.

A common feature of a micro-wedding is the absence of a reception at a later date. The couple concerned are simply choosing to have intimate wedding day in the presence of their very nearest and dearest. 

Though of course, many couples are feeling the desire to host a big party in celebration of being able to reunite. Often, they don’t have another ceremony but they do have a ‘sequel reception’ with the emphasis on ‘party’ rather than a second wedding day.

Get in touch

Are you planning a minimony or a micro-wedding? In either event, we at Fabulous Functions UK are here to help. Why not get in touch and arrange a no-obligation consultation?

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Featured photograph curtesy of Steffen Milsom Photography

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Champagne Alternatives for the toast

Five Alternatives To Champagne For The Wedding Toasts 

Speech Speech!

The wedding toasts and speeches are an integral part of any wedding breakfast. This is one of the favourite parts! It can be totally wonderful or excruciatingly awful. In either event, it’s usually memorable.

Of tradition, the modern-day wedding toast is usually made in Champagne. Of course, you can choose an alternative libation with which to wash down the speeches at your own wedding and we’ll look at some options later.

The history of the toast

According to this article on The Feminist Bride, the story goes like this:

In days of yore, groups of people were often at war with neighbouring groups of people. Truces were often formed by marrying the offspring of respective leaders to each other.

At the banquet table the bride’s father would be the first one to take a sip from a communal wine pitcher. This action sent the message to his guests that it wasn’t poisoned.

But why a toast? Well, wine was not always as sweet and smooth as it could be. To improve the situation, they’d pop a piece of burnt toast into the communal wine pitcher and that would absorb some of the acidity. And that’s how the term originated.

Choosing the tipple for your wedding toasts

As we said at the start of the blog, Champagne is the traditional choice. The chances are it’s also the most expensive. That said, all our leading supermarkets do jolly good own label Champagnes that are worth consideration.

This guide to what kind of Champagne to serve at your wedding is worth a read if Champers is what your heart is set on.

But if your wallet simply isn’t elastic enough for Champagne, or it’s simply not to your taste, what else is appropriate for your wedding toasts? Let’s take a look at five fab alternatives to accompany your wedding speeches.

  1. Crémant

Staying with French sparkling wines consider Crémant. This article from The Guardian shows how Crémant gives you more fizz for your buck than Champagne!

  1. Prosecco

Moving now to Italy there’s a sparkling wine that we’ve all become familiar with thanks to Fizz      Friday: Prosecco. The success of Prosecco is something of a phenomenon that can’t be put down to its accessible price point alone. This article on the BBC website proffers reasons why that should be.

  1. Signature cocktail

Are you planning a signature cocktail at your wedding? If so substitute the Champagne toast with that. Have large jugs of the cocktail prepared and poured in glasses in readiness when your guests sit down.

  1. Do it with a shot

The niece of a friend of mine did this. The half-Danish bride opted to give each guest a shot glass engraved with her and her husband’s initials. These were charged with snaps (it’s snaps not schnapps in Denmark) for the toasts.  Skaal!

The glasses, along with a Lego figure for each guest, doubled as a wedding favour.

Okay, so not everyone is keen on shots. But if you want to do it don’t hesitate. Your guests only need have a tiny taste. There’s no need for them to down it in one.

  1. Go with whatever is on the tables

It’s not vital that you have a specific drink for your guests to toast with. You could simply let them toast with whatever they already have in front of them.

It’s simple and if you’re on a budget it’s cost-effective

Raise your glasses 

A Champagne wedding toast deserves a special glass we think. We have two to choose from – Monogramed Champagne Fluteseither to treat yourselves for your special day or to give as a gift.

Lovers of cut crystal will love this crystal Champagne flute that you can personalise with a special message.

Cut crystal isn’t everyone’s style we know, therefore we’re now offering these fabulous flutes with on-trend hand-painted spherical stems that can be monogrammed.

While we’re on the subject of toasts and speeches we’ll leave you with this guide to the running order of speeches. It’s good to know who speaks when!

What are you planning for your wedding toasts? Champagne or something different? Let us know via our social media channels – we’d love to hear from you. Or drop us a line at info@thefabgiftboutique.com

Until next time: Salute, Cin Cin, and Cheers! Oh – and not forgetting Skaal!

Credits

Venue for main photo : Wrag Barn

Photo: Barefoot Photography 

Wedding gowns : Fairytale Occasions

Suits: Fox in House

MUA:  Holly Andersen

Wedding Cupcakes: Fays Fairy Cakes

Venue styling : Fabulous Functions UK

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